Bator Sessions
These are groups for hand only fun for bros who like to bate. The session starts with everyone circulating and getting to know other dicks and hands with everyone being asked to switch it up every now and again to create some circulation and flow, and then after about 30 minutes of us edging we'll get into a man circle. Everyone takes the dick of the next guy and we edge until we all start to shoot, preferably getting cum on each others dicks. We go until everyone is done, no man left behind, but if you shoot and want to leave you can do.
It can be really hard in a place like London to make connections with other guys that doesn't involve just sex, and when all you have is sex that can start to feel pretty dehumanising and isolating all in itself. I know lots of people in my network want the opportunity for more than just physical connection but struggle to make it happen sometimes, and this can lead to us feeling bad about ourselves and the world around us. These events are intended to create a space that you can trust to be fun, friendly, and just as well boundaried and run as the other events I do, but to not be only about sex, and to give you the option to have something that is only non-sexual if you need a bit of that in your life.
Rules for Bator Sessions
- This is a bator party with only hands being used: this is just for bating, nothing else. If you want a group that includes more this isn't for you, please don't ask whether you can do other activities in this group because the answer will be no.
- Protect Yourself: As this is a low to no risk activity you don't have to worry about attending this so much, but things like prep and doxy pep are still useful for your safety.
- No chems: Poppers and viagra are fine, if you want alcohol you can bring your own). Nothing harder is allowed and if I think you're high on something I'll ask you to leave.
- Play nicely: Respect consent but also interact with others. Attitude and shoving people off you is not nice. You also need to participate, you can be a bit of a voyeur and sit out to take breaks but people who won't interact with others when encouraged to may be asked to leave as they're making it less fun for others. This is supposed to be all of us bonding over bating, not having a series of one to ones in a room.
- Everyone plays together: It's always one group, no cliques in separate rooms. There's a natural ebb and flow of people connecting, but try not to stick to just one person and be willing to circulate a bit before we circle up.
- Everyone arrives at the same time: There will be a 15 minute window to turn up to ensure the group happens, otherwise people trickle in and out and it's no fun. I'm not a dragon about this, people who run a few minutes late can of course attend but the point is you either can arrive at the start or you won't be able to attend. After the door window is over I will put my entryphone app on do not disturb and you won't be able to get admittance - I want to be able to enjoy myself at my own event too by not being a door monitor.
- Show up: People who say they are coming but who don't show don't get invited again. I have been doing this for a while and I'm also pretty good at telling a genuine last minute cancellation from a flake excuse. If you have a problem at the last minute or are worried about coming for some reason let me know rather than just failing to show.
- Photos are only taken by explicit group consent and no faces are filmed. I rarely take photos of events because I have plenty of marketing material, but I may ask the group if there is consent to take one. If you don't want to be in photos you won't be - this is guaranteed. As everyone strips when they arrive people won't be waving their phones around anyway. Discretion is assured and respected, this means that I don't share pics of attendees either so don't ask.
- I ask for a £5 contribution from each attendee. If you have an STI check result from the last 10 days that you can show me then you don't pay anything - please understand this policy isn't about creating a risk free event, simply to help encourage behaviour that will lower the risks for everyone. Please don't argue you shouldn't have to pay anything, it's insulting to me given the amount of time and effort I put into these groups and the fact that I provide food, drinks, lube and alcohol for people, I don't think asking for a contribution so that it doesn't end up costing me money to run my events is unreasonable. If you have alcohol please chuck in a few extra pounds as £5 doesn't really cover that, but I leave that to you to do, I don't police it.
- Don't misrepresent yourself: If you look significantly different to the photos I saw when deciding if you could join then I reserve the right to refuse entry to you or decide not to invite you back to future events. I really don't like having to do that so please don't put me in the position of having to.
- Be understanding: If I'm sick or have an emergency I may need to cancel a group at short notice, I'll only do that if I have to and will always give as much notice as possible so please don't be annoyed with me on the rare occasion this happens. Also you may turn up to a group and not click with the people there or it may be smaller than you were hoping for. Remember there's a limit to how much I can do to set something up you'll enjoy, I can't meet everyone's expectations and it's a simple fact that some parties go better than others. If you have a "meh" experience then remember there's always other times, but the overwhelming feedback I get from people is that they have a great time :)
- Have fun! Make the party what you want it to be, ask for what you want, get what you want, give to others to help them have what they want. This is a very friendly group with a great attendee list, the guys who come will treat you well and I'm sure you'll like what you find. A good circle jerk is hard to find, so come and enjoy.
- Be nice to the host & follow the rules: People who communicate with the host in a way that is dismissive, rude or that suggests they aren't completely stable are not going to be good guests. People who challenge the rules, or ask that rules not apply to them don't make good guests. Remember, these are group parties so it's important that everyone plays together, anyone who dismisses any of the other people present or make others feel unwelcome will not be invited again.
